Not all houses are homes. A home, as defined by Justin and Rust (1941), is noted below:
“Home is a place or abode of persons bound together by ties of affection; a place where affection of parents for each other, for children, and among all members of the family is nurtured and enjoyed; where genuine personal hospitality is extended; where the immature is protected and guarded. A place where one may have rest, privacy, and a sense of security; where one may enjoy his/her individual kind of recreation and share it with others. A place where one may keep his/her treasures; where one may satisfy his/her individual tastes; where fundamental culture of customs, language, courtesies, and tradition is conserved and passed on to the young. A place where regard for others, loyalty, honesty, and other worthy character traits are cultivated and enjoyed – a haven, a sanctuary, and a source of inspiration.”
A home should be the center of genuine love for its members. Other values like loyalty, respect, consideration, and kindness must also be practiced. Children should be allowed to experience failure, frustration, pain and disappointment to strengthen their character. They should be allow to practice and develop personal hygiene and good health habits.
A home must be the place for the child’s character formation. It is a place to form sound values. Parents must provide children love and security and equip them with a sound outlook for life and a strong personality. Parents must provide their children with a home that is morally wholesome; where love, beauty, orderliness and mutual understanding abide.
The lamps of love, awareness, beauty, joy, truth, aspiration and strength must light a home to develop and maintain a harmonious family life. The ties of affection that bind the family members together are revealed by the lamp of love. These ties unite them in providing a sense of belonging.
The lamp of awareness lights the way toward conscious growth of all the family members. It helps them accept each others weakness and enhances each others strengths. The lamp of beauty lights appreciation for even the most commonplace objects, the trite family possessions and the monotonous daily chores. The lamp of of joy facilitates the accepting of life’s challenges, facing life’s adversities and courageously tackling frustrations.
The lamp of truth helps a family face the realities of life, increasing desired family values without fear. The lamp of aspiration will inspire the family to strive harder to become more than what they have been. The most important lamp in the family is the lamp of strength. This lamp provides light to the other lamps when they burn low. Self-mastery, tolerance, loyalty, unselfishness and undying devotion are provided by the lamp of strength.
Home and Family Living (by Margaret M. Justin and Lucile Osborn Rust, 1941)